For anyone who hasn’t noticed, lately I have got even more obsessed with women’s writing, specifically, women writing about feminist issues. I put this renewed obsession down to Lena Dunham’s Women of the Hour podcast and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s We Should All Be Feminists. It also relates to a minor incident a few weeks ago, when I was walking home by myself, late-ish at night and a random guy decided to shove his drunk friend into me, for, as far as I can tell no reason other than to frighten me. This is far from the worst creeperie I’ve experienced, but it has me angrier than usual. I suppose it’s because in an ideal world I should be to complete a less than ten minute walk from a concert venue to a youth hostel alone without incident.
I feel like reading books about feminism is a healthy way to channel the frustration.
Summaries all from Goodreads.
Men Explain Things To Me – Rebecca Solnit
‘In her comic, scathing essay “Men Explain Things to Me,” Rebecca Solnit took on what often goes wrong in conversations between men and women. She wrote about men who wrongly assume they know things and wrongly assume women don’t, about why this arises, and how this aspect of the gender wars works, airing some of her own hilariously awful encounters…This book features that now-classic essay with six perfect complements, including an examination of the great feminist writer Virginia Woolf ’s embrace of mystery, of not knowing, of doubt and ambiguity, a highly original inquiry into marriage equality, and a terrifying survey of the scope of contemporary violence against women.’
You Don’t Have to Like Me: Essays on Growing Up, Speaking Out and Finding Feminism – Alida Nugent
‘Alida Nugent’s first book, Don’t Worry It Gets Worse, received terrific reviews, and her self-deprecating “everygirl” approach continues to win the Internet-savvy writer and blogger new fans. Now, she takes on one of today’s hottest cultural topics: feminism.
Nugent is a proud feminist—and she’s not afraid to say it. From the “scarlet F” thrust upon you if you declare yourself a feminist at a party to how to handle judgmental store clerks when you buy Plan B, You Don’t Have to Like Me skewers a range of cultural issues, and confirms Nugent as a star on the rise.’
The Dead Ladies Project: Exiles, Expats and Ex-Countries – Jessa Crispin
‘When Jessa Crispin was thirty, she burned her settled Chicago life to the ground and took off for Berlin with a pair of suitcases and no plan beyond leaving. Half a decade later, she’s still on the road, in search not so much of a home as of understanding, a way of being in the world that demands neither constant struggle nor complete surrender.’
I heard about this book on Stuff Mom Never Told You. I really recommend listening to the episode. Jessa is a fascinating lady.
Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love and So Much More – Janet Mock
‘In 2011, Marie Claire magazine published a profile of Janet Mock in which she stepped forward for the first time as a trans woman. Those twenty-three hundred words were life-altering for the People.com editor, turning her into an influential and outspoken public figure and a desperately needed voice for an often voiceless community. In these pages, she offers a bold and inspiring perspective on being young, multicultural, economically challenged, and transgender in America.’
Americanah – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
‘As teenagers in a Lagos secondary school, Ifemelu and Obinze fall in love. Their Nigeria is under military dictatorship, and people are leaving the country if they can. Ifemelu—beautiful, self-assured—departs for America to study. She suffers defeats and triumphs, finds and loses relationships and friendships, all the while feeling the weight of something she never thought of back home: race. Obinze—the quiet, thoughtful son of a professor—had hoped to join her, but post-9/11 America will not let him in, and he plunges into a dangerous, undocumented life in London.
Years later, Obinze is a wealthy man in a newly democratic Nigeria, while Ifemelu has achieved success as a writer of an eye-opening blog about race in America. But when Ifemelu returns to Nigeria, and she and Obinze reignite their shared passion—for their homeland and for each other—they will face the toughest decisions of their lives.’
My Life on the Road – Gloria Steinem
‘Gloria Steinem—writer, activist, organizer, and one of the most inspiring leaders in the world—now tells a story she has never told before, a candid account of how her early years led her to live an on-the-road kind of life, traveling, listening to people, learning, and creating change. She reveals the story of her own growth in tandem with the growth of an ongoing movement for equality.’
Amazing review by Ann Friedman here.
I’m so sorry for this kind of creepy experience, this is really frightening when that happens, and I hope it won’t happen again ❤ You're so right about reading those kind of books, it's refreshing and definitely makes us stronger when we read books about feminisms after this kind of thing happens. I didn't read any of those books, but they seem like interesting reads, maybe I will try that out once 🙂
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I too have been on a bit of a feminist-kick this year with my nonficiton reading. I’m still trying to find that one great book though! These picks look like some good ones to start with!
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Thanks! Feminist reads are awesome.
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Ugh, I had a similar incident a few months ago and it just REALLY unsettled me. Like, it seems minor in comparison to what some women experience, but it really scared me. 😦 So I completely relate – I’m sorry that happened to you. And you’re right, something as simple as walking from Point A to Point B shouldn’t be so meh.
I’d love to read Men Explain Things To Me. I have a really good friend who went away, but when he came back he was mansplaining EVERYTHING. It got so frustrating, and his mum snapped at him to shut up (which was so unlike their relationship). It seems to happen in a very subtle way too, like it appears well-mannered but isn’t underneath. I remember once one of my sister’s friend was explaining a common university examination process to me (and I mean… he was a first year and I was fourth year), and I interrupted him and was like, ‘I know what it is.’ At first I felt bad, because it’s incredibly unlike me to interrupt anyone when speaking, but then I was like, HM WAIT. THIS GUY (THOUGH PROBABLY NOT INTENTIONAL) WAS BEING CONDESCENDING. :I
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I’m sorry for your creepy incident. It sucks so much that this continues to happen. I’m really obsessed with Aziz Ansari’s show Master of None at the moment, and the beginning few minutes of one of the episodes is comparing the experience of walking home from a bar if you’re a man and if you’re a woman. It’s amazing.
Oh no. I hope your friend is calming down again now. It’s even worse when male friends behave in that way. You just want to remind them that you are actually equals in the conversation. Men Explain Things To Me is available online by itself because it was originally written for a website, so you can read that one without buying the book.
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Ooh, I haven’t heard of it, but I’ll wiki it and then check it out if free time allows!
I think he has a little – I did see him some weeks after and he had toned down. Not sure where it came from but I’m relieved he isn’t like that anymore. Absolutely! Sometimes I’m overly charitable and think that they don’t realize how their behaviour is affecting others, but, it needs to be pointed out nonetheless I suppose!
Oh thank you for telling me! I’ll have a good hunt for it and save it for a rainy day. c:
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I hope you enjoy it 🙂 I have been sending it to basically everyone I know over the last few days.
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