I used to read almost every morning before starting my day. Back when I was student I would roll out of bed around 9am most days, stumble downstairs for a cup of tea before sinking back into bed with a book.
It was the best.
These days, it’s not like that.
I work full time now – usually between 35 and 50 hours a week. Long mornings spent in bed with a book are a thing of the past. They have been replaced with long hours taking food to hostile strangers.
Reading became something that I had to make time for.
I find it frustrating in 90% of people when they say ‘I don’t have time to read!’
What most people actually mean by that is: I don’t make time to read.
And there are a bunch of valid reasons for not making time. Maybe your days are mentally taxing. Maybe you have a whole bunch of kids. Maybe you’re just tired.
I totally get that.
But, for people like me, the zero-hour contract, employment law need-not-apply, brain melting 12 hour restaurant shift type people… books are important. You need that reminder that the world is bigger than the walls you work inside of.
So, those mornings in bed being a thing of the past, where do you read?
For me, most reading takes place on or waiting for public transport. I used to not like reading on the train, because I am very easily distracted/annoyed by other people’s conversation and not really into listening to music when I read. But, I realised, if I added up all the time I spend sitting on trains I would probably cry, so I may as well use that time doing something important.
To me, that something important is reading, obviously.
Despite my best efforts, I totally fail at not getting drawn into listening to/laughing at/being disgusted by large groups of football men/teenagers/suit wearing, Apple computer owning types. I had to get over the not listening to music thing. It turns out I can read to Lorde much better than I can middle aged men bitching about their wives.
Who knew.
Adulthood, I have learned, is a lot about choosing what’s important to you.
Right now, reading is important. When I pick up a book, I’m looking for something. I’ve recently realised that there are pieces of it scattered everywhere, through YA and through literary books. Fragments of it are hiding in poetry and essays.
I secretly feel like maybe if I read enough books, I’ll be able to gather those pieces into a coherent whole and then maybe I’ll know what to do next.
When I read, that’s what I’m making time for.
Maybe the question isn’t so much WHEN you make time for it as WHY.
When do YOU read, and why?
This post is pure truth! It’s so hard adjusting to adult life where you have to work full-time while also trying to make time for your significant other and your hobbies/other adult things. At my job, I’m required to taken an hour lunch every day so I get a lot of reading done then, but I wasn’t reading so much at home. I discovered that was because my husband always wanted to hang out when I got home by watching TV or talking or whatever. Finally I broke it to him that I loved hanging out with him, but I wasn’t reading as much as I’d like. We finally settled that I could have two “reading days” a week where it wasn’t an expectation that we would necessarily do things together when I got home from work. That has helped by giving me a set time when I know I can just…read.
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Thank you! I love that you had a conversation about the importance of reading time with your husband. It’s hard to accept how proactive you suddenly have to be about how you spend your time once you’re an adult.
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Like you say, you’ve got to make time. Fallow time when you wouldn’t be getting anything else done, usually. Audiobooks are wonderful!
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I love audiobooks too, though I’ve only recently started listening to fiction that way. I had a weird hang out about it – I used to only listen to autobiographies – but as long as the narrator is good, the experience is just as fun as reading is.
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That was a really beautiful post, I especially love how you say we have to make time for it and being an adult definitely is about choosing what’s important to you. If I don’t read for a long time, I’m cranky and sad and overall not myself, really. I use all the time I spend on public transportation reading, and lunch breaks and weekends as well. As much as I can and whenever I can fit it in 🙂
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Thank you! I’m the same way. When I don’t make time for reading I feel like the world starts to shrink a little bit. It’s super depressing! When people talk to me on public transport when I’m reading I get so mad. It is so rude to speak to someone who is reading a book. Clearly we aren’t looking to have a conversation!
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YES, this. It makes me mad whenever someone bothers me while I’m reading. It’s exactly it – if I wanted to talk, I wouldn’t be READING ahah.
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I feel ya with the working thing! I posted something similar recently about how my reading schedule has drastically changed since working.
I used to read in the morning before school and before I would go to bed. Usually 20-60 minutes at each time; sometimes more if I was particularly stressed because it relaxes me. But now I get up earlier to drive to work and I can’t fit the time in. I’m also zonked by the time I get home so it takes me longer to read a book than I am used to.
Now I read more audiobooks to pass the commute and read a book before bed because it usually calms me down enough to sleep.
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I saw your post! I am glad this isn’t just a me problem haha.
I find reading a book before bed so helpful for sleeping too. I got into a really bad habit for a while of binge watching Netflix until like 1am and then wondering why I was awake all night… books are much better before bed.
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I try to stay away from Netflix at night–so dangerous! But then I feel bad when I spend a beautiful day inside so I try to limit myself…
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I mostly read at school after completing an exam since I have to wait till the remainder of the time is done. Also, at night but that is usually a bad choice because I don’t end up sleeping unless I finish the book (I have finished 4 books this week due to that but that’s okay because it was spring break so I got to stay awake)
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Haha! I know what you mean. I’m reading A Conjuring of Light right now and it’s so hard to put it down so I can sleep!
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Completely, completely agree about making time to read. I think that’s almost in line with something I saw about exercise… if you don’t make time to exercise, you will have to find time to be sick. I think, IN A WAY, it’s quite similar to reading… maybe.
For me, I’m studying which has been all sorts, haha, but I like to read before I go to bed (helps me unwind!) and when I’m on the bus somewhere (I like to listen to the audiobook I have on hand). ^_^
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It so is like the exercise thing. Talking about ‘making time’ for things makes me feel so old, haha. But it’s so true!
I find sometimes it’s harder to read to relax when you’ve spent the day studying. When I was at university, my first year I barely read anything outside of my assigned reading (to be fair I was doing a Lit degree and had to read 2 novels a week. But still. Not like me.). I started a new job recently (not a waitress any more! For now, anyway…) and I have a fair amount of reading to do during the day, but this time when I’m on the train home I’m actually MAKING myself read, because I find that once I get over that initial resistance of feeling like I’m too tired, I get into the book.
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