I’m not going to lie, August has not been a fun one for me. From career set backs (or, as my friends are determinedly rebranding it: new opportunities) to a sudden family crisis (all turned out fine) to a horrific stomach bug that took me down for days, I have spent a disproportionate amount of August feeling sorry for myself and not much like reading — or writing about it.
But, despite the repeat plunge into the unknown I’m going through right now and the big change coming up that, unfortunately, is very much not a change I wanted, for the past few days I’ve been feeling unusually optimistic. It’s been a hard couple weeks; hard enough that, for once, I’ve sort of let myself off the hook. I have a very loud, negative, naval gazing interior monologue that I pretty much leave to chunter away unimpeded to call me a piece of shit regardless of whether I’m doing something helpful or nothing at all. But the past couple weeks as I’ve struggled to meet work deadlines around hospital visits (like I said, everything is really fine now) I sort of realised the time had come where I needed to be on my own side a little bit. Like, life is hard enough without me making it even harder for myself, you know?
So that was a realisation I’m trying to carry forward as I plan the next stage of my life, a process that will also include the need for me to cheer for my own team of one. I bring this up because I feel like that’s important for everyone — be on your own team a little bit. It helps.
Anyway, as this is a officially a monthly favourites post, here are a few:
Reading: Elle September issue
I haven’t written about it much on here, but I care very much about trying to be more ethical and environmentally sustainable in my buying, particularly when it comes to clothes. After I watched The True Cost documentary a couple years ago I knew I couldn’t go on buying in the way that I had done before, so ever since I’ve been gradually searching out shops that care about the environment and the people producing their stock as much as I do. This issue of Elle was entirely dedicated to just that and I had a really fun time reading it — there was little in there I didn’t already know, but it makes me happy to see ethical clothing lines getting the credit they deserve.
If you want to know more about making ethical buying choices I would recommend either watching The True Cost (it’s on Netflix) or reading Slow Fashion by Safia Minney, founder of People Tree.
Listening: My Dad Wrote A Porno
Yes, you read that right. In this podcast Jamie Morton and his friends James Cooper and Alice Levine perform a dramatic reading of Jamie’s dad’s self published erotica series Belinda Blinked — the least sexy, most anatomically confusing porno book you’ve ever heard. Would recommend headphones.
Watching: Luke Cage
I am yet to watch the last episode because I’m horrible at finishing things (also I need to watch it during the day because I have a feeling it’ll be stressful enough that I won’t be able to sleep after and haven’t yet had the opportunity) but I have loved this season. Season one, I was in two minds about — I enjoyed the beginning but lost interested a bit after Mahershala’s surprising early exit, then came back around again for the last few episodes. But this season — with the exception of the Danny Rand episode — has kept me gripped throughout. I love the way Marvel’s Netflix shows complicate villains so authentically. They are both super evil but I am actively dreading the inevitable demises of Bushmaster and Shades (please don’t spoil me) — that’s another reason why I am yet to watch the finale.
How was your August? Any faves I should know about?
Take care 💖💖
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Glad you had a great month. In Aug one of my fav reads was The Poppy war. And I loved watching To all the boys I’ve loved before
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To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before was the sweetest movie! I was so pleased to see they did such a good job of adapting the story.
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I am so sorry to hear about your struggles Lydia. I hope everything works out in your favor ❤ And yes, you should definitely be cheering yourself on–you have to believe in yourself, always, no matter what the cynic in your head might tell you. I hope September brings good things for you.
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Thank you Tanaz. Things are slowly heading back in the direction of normal. Well, normal enough that I am now determined to get back into some sort of regular blogging schedule.
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I am so glad to hear that. Praying for the best for you! Take care okay? The blogosphere will always be here but your needs come first ❤
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I’m so sorry to hear this has been a tough month, I really hope that September will be brighter and I am sending you tons of love and positive vibes for September! ❤ ❤ ❤
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Thank you. September was certainly busy! Things are looking up, and I determined that I will now get myself back into blogging at least once a week. I need to stop with these unplanned hiatuses, haha.
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Man, so many things! I had no idea you had an interest in ethical consumerism, that is insanely cool, Lydia 🙂
I too have started being a bit more conscientious about my spendings and my overall buying, something that stemmed from both the need to help our poor planet and also because I started feeling overwhelmed by all the stuff I was cramming into my life. I started looking into minimalism first, then into more enviromental-focused issues. So thank you so much for sharing your knowledge here, I will most definitely check out The True Costand Slow Fashion!
I’ve heard about that podcast and it sounds absolutely hilarious. I must find some time this month to listen to it – maybe at work, if they finally drop the headphones ban xD (Long story but I guess someone just took advantage of it a bit tooo much and the whole team kind of suffered ugh – goodbye audiobook time!)
Great post as always, hon ❤ My August was fairly good and I'm hoping September will be just as nice and eventful to us both ^^
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Being an ethical consumer is a hard job, for sure. I think that it’s one of those things that gets easier to more you do it. Minimalism is such a good place to start! I’m in exactly the same situation. I’ve spent a lot of time in the last couple years getting rid of things that I don’t need, and having purged so much stuff I’m not really picky about what I bring back in again. The buying is such a constant cycle as well, if you let yourself get stuck on it. You buy something to make yourself feel some kind of way, and then when that fades, you feel like you have to buy something else to get the feeling back. Before you know if you’re surrounded by stuff and no closer to dealing with the actual problem, whatever it turns out to be.
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Yeah, definitely my exact feelings… I also feel like I tend to shop a lot to deal with stress (or used to, anyway, I’ve gotten better at it) be it for clothing or just sweets at the supermarket… To kind of reward myself. It’s soooo damaging to my self-esteem afterwards
I also seem to have developed a sort of hatred for knick-knacks and the like because I’m a very practical person and cleaning gets so annoying when you have too much stuff lying around. I think that was when I started to think about minimalism the most! A rather crappy reason and a vain one, but if it spurs the movement, isn’t it still a valid one?
Also because my family has always loved to have tons of stuff around – useful or not – and it drove me mad. If I wanted to throw something out, I was always told no and never given a real reason, which maddened me.
I recently read a book called The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and while not as life-changing as I had expected, it was still quite interesting and offered a much needed perspective on clutter.
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August was so hectic for me too… At least the second half. Started to wonder what exactly I was aiming for career-wise and if my goals were still the same to this day. Requestioning all that definitely made me explore and acknowledge all sorts of plan B, C and Z, as I never realize that I had no plan B, C or Z and that I was always on a straight line where I assumed that sooner or later all the opportunities would cross paths with me! On another note, have you checked out Iron Fist S2? 😀 😀 😀 Your apparent love for Danny Rand clearly says that you were pumped for it! Hope September has been calm and enjoyable for you, Lydia. 🙂
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Oh god, I know that feeling all too well! I hope you’re closer to figuring out what’s next – if you’re not though, try not to freak out. I think sometimes you just have to be patient while everything slots into place in you mind. At least that’s what I hope!
I just finished Iron Fist S2. I liked it so much more than S1! How everything turned out with Colleen was so surprising, but I loved it. The ladies are really taking over Marvel on Netflix. I am so excited/scared for Daredevil. That’s the show I’m really obsessed with, and we’ve been waiting SO LONG for s3. I am terrified for Karen and Foggy. Losing either of them would be awful, but with Bullseye most likely showing up and Fisk out of jail… I worry. A lot!
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Hahahah yes! Them women are taking over all right! Even in the movie business, their are more and more women-lead superhero movies (Captain Marvel and Birds of Prey being the next ones). I’m definitely pumped for Daredevil S3. Might end up being the darkest season yet, and I’m all in for it! 😀
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Hi Lydia! I hope your month of September is going better than last month, and I hope you’re taking enough time to rest and relax 😊 I’m actually really glad that you mentioned the Elle magazine in this wrap up post of yours. Whenever I enter a mall with family or friends, they always get annoyed at my commentary on who made this shirt, where this product came from, or whether this was ethically made… but I think it is so important to keep these questions in mind. We have the power to support industries that are ethical over industries that sell cheap clothing made by workers paid ridiculously low wages, so it’s important to educate ourselves about where our clothing (and other products) come from. I’m glad you shone some light on that subject for this post.
Anyways, sending all the love and positivity from California! ❤️ I enjoyed reading this post of yours!
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It really is important to be aware of how what we’re buying impacts the planet. It’s one of those things as well where once you start down the road of awareness it really impacts the way you think about everything.
Thank you! I took an unscheduled blogging break for September but now I’m feeling ready to get back to it 🙂
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