June favourites

So about a month ago I moved to a new city and started a new job.

Since then blogging has been, shall we say, patchy.

I had this idea when I moved that I was definitely not going to miss a week no matter what happened.

Really anyone could have told me this was not a realistic goal.

So, lads – I think you’re going to have to bear with me as we go through this period of adjustment. I’m busy with work, and with trying to bond with my housemates – mostly through the medium of Love Island. If you don’t live in the UK and therefore don’t know what that is…. It’s probably for the best.

If you live in the UK – please don’t judge me too harshly. I have had to do quite a lot of ‘networking’ in the past weeks and I tell you it is a great tool to have at your disposable during a conversational lull/when you’re trying to avoid talking about yourself because for some reason even when people ask you totally reasonable and acceptable questions about your life part of your mind says no I shall tell you nothing I am very attached to being an identityless woman of mystery/ I live my whole life in fear of judgement for a range of reasons we would both rather I don’t get into right now.

 In reality though I just come off as super boring because that’s what happens when you aren’t holding up your side of the conversation.

And then I get a stomach ache.

Basically me.


Doing nothing but meeting new people for a month is hard.

I don’t have a ton of favourites right now, but those I’ve loved, I’ve loved hard.

(also I have not read enough books lately to review. Though I did read How To Stop Time by Matt Haig, which I really did not like. I’m now reading The Girls, by Emma Cline, which I really love. Balance.)

Let’s begin:

To listen: Eve Ensler’s episode of WTF with Marc Maron

I’m a woman of habit – usually – and particularly during this last few weeks of relative madness (honestly I define ‘madness’ as having to leave the house, which I have to do pretty much every single day now. Who have I become?) nothing gives me comfort and calm like turning of WTF. This episode was a tough one – Eve Ensler suffered pretty much every kind of abuse possible at the hands of her father and she’s written a book about it from said father’s (now deceased) point of view. It’s a powerful conversation about abuse, healing and patriarchy. Eve cries. Marc cries. I cried. I say this with all of the trigger warnings, but please do consider listening. It’s a beautiful, painful and raw conversation – Marc does those well.

To listen: In League With Dragons

The Mountain Goats have taken their music in a new a fascinating direction with their last couple albums. Largely gone are the No Children like shouty, guitar strumming songs of old in favour of a much more produced sound. But the heart is the same. In songs that are supposedly about wizards and demons John Darnielle talks about pain and surviving it. It’s a reminder that hope is as valid a reaction as anger and despair – basically like every Mountain Goats album – and it’s, as always, just exactly what I need.

‘Done Bleeding’ is my favourite song right now, but I could be swayed by ‘Clemency for the Wizard King’ or ‘Going Invisible 2’.

That’s… probably it honestly.

See ya’ soon.

Author: Lydia Tewkesbury

27. Loves a good story.

9 thoughts on “June favourites”

  1. Don’t push yourself so hard.. my family has been living in this new city and state for 4 years and we don’t have anyone to call best friends yet. Just acquaintances. But luckily we have 3 of us as family. When I left my work, I don’t leave with a friend either. That’s bad I guess.. haha but good luck to you though 😊 I probably need to try harder too hahaa Wish talking to people is as easy as commenting on blogs 😂

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    1. Thank you! I know you’re right – I keep putting too much pressure on the situation.

      It’s not bad! I think it’s different when you have your family. And just because you work with people doesn’t always mean you have anything in common! It mostly hasn’t for me x

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      1. Maybe I’m worse off than you are haha.. that’s good that you are pushing yourself out there though.. I need to do that, later when I go back to work. Actually, if you know more people it helps because they may introduce you new jobs.

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  2. Ah, I find networking and talking to strangers so often emotionally exhausting, so definitely know how you feel! Good luck settling in (if you haven’t already!).

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    1. Thanks! It definitely is.

      I’m doing all right thanks. I think it’s just establishing new routines rather than trying to do everything the same way that I did before I moved. I’m gradually figuring it out x

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  3. There’s no lying that networking is almost an inevitable necessity in life today and that being able to be social in everyday life is so demanding but a must if you want to survive out there. I personally feel super exhausted by the end of the day if I had to converse with a bunch of older folks just to get myself known out there and to represent my organization. At least we have books to help us escape and recuperate. 😀

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